Similar like our last episode, we are continuing our conversation on divorce. However, we are going to take a different take on this topic by talking about what it was like marrying into a divorced family, how that might affect your marriage and the challenges that comes with it. Overall, this episode is to help you find hope in your story.
We go over three main topics that people that have a Christian background + have divorced parents would probably wonder themselves or vice versa: what it is like to marry into a divorced family, what it is like for your parents to remarry, and if it is possible to still have a healthy and successful marriage.
In the beginning of the episode, David used a funny but relatable example of the Disney movie Inside Out to explain what it is like to view your childhood as it once was through a different lens. He had to learn to look at things from a different point of view and appreciate the good memories without the thought of his mom and dad divorcing. When David began dating Lianna, he got to know Lianna’s parents, who are happily married, and he was able to appreciate and spend time with her family as well as his family.
In Lianna’s point of view, she had to learn so much, especially with being flexible to change and not be surprised when someone reacts differently than she thought they will. At first, it was not as challenging because it was more about getting to know David better and falling in love with him. But, after a while, it became a little more challenging and she finally saw the strange dynamics and how everyone hasn’t really gotten “over” divorce. She thought since the divorce happened years ago, that everyone was over it and moved on. But, as David said, it is something they all each have to deal with for rest of their whole lives, including when we have children, for the holidays, and vacations.
Overall, here are the main two words David wanted you to take away with today’s episode if you have dealt with your parents’ divorce: grieve and grow. Listen more on what those two words means and how it relates to the rest of the episode.
You do not have to feel like your future marriage or current marriage will be like your parents, if they did end up getting a divorce. You can make the change and decide not to take that route in your marriage or future marriage, starting today.
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